Mar 24, 2017

At last...I am finally back on a PONY

Talk about baby steps.

A lot of people compliment me & hubby that we are in our respective fields (IT & HR) immediately as our first job in landing. It is a known fact (due to my incessant whining to close friends & this blog) however that my work (or lack thereof) is killing me to boredom. I am not being arrogant here to say that everything that I am doing is something I can do in my sleep that is why my turn-around time is in a SNAP leaving me with plenty of empty hours in the office. I do not think the job is beneath me but I do not see my value add to the organization.

My manager is not very keen in exploring aspects of me developing training for the employees nor is employee engagement (or employee events at the minimum) is in our umbrella. Those who know me very well will find it weird that I got excited I would have to cover for the payroll supervisor for 1 month while he goes on leave. Which means I have been doing payroll for the past few weeks now and was really excited about it. Of course when the novelty wore off I found myself wondering why I became a math teacher as (I kid you not!) 60% of the time sheets they employees/managers computed wrongly!!!Calculators people!!!So yes my job became basic 1+1 checking the papers before I can enter in the system! Absolutely not living the dream!! LOL

Anyway what I am seriously excited about this time is I got a training request from a manager for basic MS Office. I told her that since we are non-profit org why don't I do the training myself. I know MS Office is not my area of expertise but I am banking on myself being an advance user and with (hopefully still) good facilitation skills. So I got it and another Director approached me for the same request. So yes I am back on the pony for now just to make sure I can still get back on the horse later. Yey!

Mar 23, 2017

Packed Lunch

Packed lunch here in Canada is an extra challenge for me it's nut free ( no nutella sandwiches) and fish free( no tuna and sardines) so forgive me if I cant help but smile as I was putting away the left over dinner Ate said "Mommy there's still mashed potato can I have it for baon please?" And I said ok also bring these green beans and she was ok we were just worried the volume might not be enough to fill her up. Then I asked bunso what she wants and she happily replied "Anything youstill have over there mom just add strawberries please" I told her that Ate is already bringing the left over mashed potato and she was fine with it which meant she was thinking of the left over chili. Too bad the weather wont permit that it won't keep warm so I told her she can't. So she said "Oh ok anything then"

Yup one happy mommy here that my kids eat vegetables and fruit!

Feb 28, 2017

Parenting Scores

It's amazing when you feel you are doing something right for something that you have been so exhausted in doing and driving you nuts.

The past few weeks hubby & I were plain exhausted. I even asked him if I can hand in my resignation papers from being a mom and he said he had been thinking of the same thing too. The kids are pushing our limits and we haven't really had much of "self-care regimen" to keep us sane. Over the weekend however we told them to dress up for church and they came out of their room all dress up with matching clothes and announcing that they are getting along so well. There were a few minutes of bickering during the day but not so bad to that was a triumph. Last night we sent them to bed at 8PM after brushing their teeth and all (same as every other night) at around 8:30 PM their lights were off and we heard them saying their prayers together for the first time without us. It was a lovely prayer made more special as it was their own initiative. We can't help but smile and stand up to bid them goodnight again. Usually putting them to bed and the actual sleeping is a big struggle. Despite ushering them to bed at 8 - 8:30 they mostly end up asleep by 9:30 PM the earliest. So yey to me & Ryan! Parenting is really hard but the nuggets of moments you get a peak of the person you hope they will be is so rewarding! Don't get me wrong our apartment is still a chaos of mess.

Feb 16, 2017

Conversations with my 5yo

I always love having conversations with my daughters mostly they dominate it by telling long winded stories of the day or something they found amusing. I treasure all of their stories. I love seeing things through their eyes but since their innocence is fleeting so fast I thought I should share some here with my 5 yo and I will update this time & again

Feb 14 2017
I bathed her as I wanted to make sure her congested nose gets relieved. After the bath...
Liezl: Mom I love you. I am happy you take care of us. Without you we cannot eat. Daddy needs to learn how to cook before you die right?
Me: Well we really do not know when we will die
Liezl: But you will die when you are 100 years old that's why when you are 99 I will be very sad because on your next birthday you will die.
Me: *eyes popped* LOL
Feb 13 2017
Cooking palabok I asked her to stir the pot.
Liezl: Wow you are cooking spaghetti!
Me: It's palabok not spaghetti
While eating the palabok
Liezl: We are not allowed to bring spaghetti to school
Me: It's palabok not spaghetti
Liezl: (Still oblivious) Don't pack this spaghetti for my lunch ok?

Oct 19, 2016

Bring on the Halloween 2016 fuss!

Like in every holidays, occasions, etc this year it's all FIRST for us.

So Ryan wasn't keen about Halloween - CANDIES, EXPENSE ON THE COSTUMES & COLD WEATHER. He can't comprehend the safety of the weather and the possible tons of candies not good for their teeth after. Thanks to Ate Elsie he got convinced and allowed us to shop for costumes last weekend.

Liezl was very determined with her scary witch costume so we just both a witch hat on top of a headband with spiders all around ($2), matching green gloves with spider print on top ($1.50) & table runner with spider webs - for her cape, kelangan daw kse ng web na tirahan ng spiders nya ($2). For Iaree she wanted to be a pirate...then we thought how about a bat and she loved the idea. We found a headband with black ears ($2) and we went searching for a good wings material.

After 4 shops we found a magician's cape in Dollar Tree which I can trim the bottom and will be perfect and I went shopping for makeup since they want to be "scary".

Yesterday we received a note from Liezl's school that they are not allowed to be so scary as it might frighten some of the kids so Liezl was asking daddy if they can shop for a different costume. LOL.Apparently whatever day it falls (this year its on a Monday) that's the day people celebrate it. So they will be in school and we have to be up early for me to put on their make-up. Iaree wants fake blood so I need to make a trip to the grocery so I can DIY some.

As I kept watching youtube videos on how to make halloween make-up I was getting scared myself. LOL. I obviously need to bring my A game here and shop for candies to share in their day-care & school.

Aug 16, 2016

The Kindness of Strangers

I should really get an umbrella.
This isn't the first time that I got wet in the rain here in Manitoba but yesterday was pouring. God is so good that it POURED after I was already in the bus. The rainfall was imminent as I waited for the bus and the dark clouds was fast approaching. I started feeling strong winds too and the drizzle while I prayed please let this be my bus please let this be my bus...and it was! About 5 minutes later it poured.

I looked at the clock inside the bus and thought I am already running late picking up the girls. Despite the fact that the bus driver drive like it was a mini-van he was driving and creating 7-8 feet high splashes of water on the side walk. I texted our sitter and told her I was running late and I will arrive wet. LOL. I didn't get a chance to read her response and she did call me as I was getting off the bus. When I reached her place the kids were wearing big hooded sweaters (not theirs, coz in the morning I decided to remove their sweaters due to the hot hot weather over the weekend). I told them lets make a run for the bus on the other side so we didn't have to wait for it from where I got off as there was no shade. We did run for it but in the mid of our run we saw the bus pass by. LOL.

I thought of taking shelter at the sitter until it's closer to the time the bus is back but she said no. I am taking you girls home. If its not for the girls I would've said no. In the car she told me how when she was a single mom taking home her kids at the harshest of winter she would silently hope that some car would stop by and offer them a ride. How she knows how hard it was taking the bus with weather challenges and wouldn't mind driving us home.

I have been contemplating on this for a while now how we easily look the other way when we see who are in need. We do not know how big of an impact it has on their life. An ounce of kindness = sliver of hope.

Jul 22, 2016

Life after my global company

I've been contemplating a lot if I have a problem letting go, moving on and just be in the present.
If I go with my unfiltered thought, I won't be judged for being ungrateful for what I have now -- that is a good job in my line of work. My unfiltered thoughts will also share why oh why do I have to sit in the office for 8 hours not having the satisfaction of your work contributions making a difference, being micro-managed and each stepped questioned or criticized, mostly not existing to most employees? I wonder if what I am feeling is really uncalled for.

Before migrating here there's the term "survival job" that we were told about. Those are the jobs like flipping burgers, working in groceries to make ends meet until you have gained enough "Canadian experience" to show employers. Well we didn't certainly go that route (and by the way that route is not bad either as there's dignity of labor here and those jobs do pay well). While I may not be flipping burgers or loading merchandise in the aisles of the grocery stores I still feel what I do is a survival job. I hang on to it the best that I can as it is needed by my family then >>complain A LOT in my blog...miss my ex-colleagues, ex-company and ex-role miserably. LOL.

Here's a list of what I have gained and what I am missing:

1. Freedom after working hours! Woohooo...ohhh I worked and worked and even lose sleep working at my previous work. While I say I was tired before I never complained hating it. I do love the fact that since I have no helper in the kitchen not having the work burden after I leave the office.
2. Intellectual and creative avenue for my over-active brain. I love churning ideas. I love talking about it. I love listening to people who give a different perspective that it makes you reconsider yours or let you learn something. I love that in my previous job failure is welcomed in a fashion that you are trying, you are in the right direction or not and that you have room for improvement. That is mainly because the expectations are clear.
3. My awesome ex bosses! You know I didn't necessarily have that instant click with my bosses at first. However it only takes a few weeks of getting to know each other. Plenty of delegation and empowerment. Accepted failure that we grow to work GREAT together. I can definitely say it takes a good leader give that experience. That's what they were. They were clear about their expectations and they take time to get to know me, how I think and work and I was like that to them. They certainly earned my respect, trust and drive to accomplish beyond their expectations. It was mutual and I miss it...terribly.
4. I did gain a lot of time to do personal stuff. That's how light my work is which also scares me as I might not be as relevant to the company. Unlike when I left my previous company...oh how I had the need to put things in order a lot just to ensure they can go on without me. Yes they can just that I felt responsible if I did't hand it over properly however at that point my team is empowered and tasks are delegated well that they can self-manage.
5. The money!I know my husband would disagree but I just don't feel any guilt buying something worth $2-3 once in a while not to mention my starbucks spending last time. While I can live without that Starbucks Caramel Macchiato ('sniff) I just miss being comfortable to spend once in a while and that came in with my manager paycheck before plus extra bonuses for being awesome at what I do.
6. My leaves - sick & vacation. Ugh I was so dizzy with vertigo that my BP rose up and our nurse sent me home. I wanted to rest the next day but I can't afford that as I do not have sick leave. So I dragged my dizzy ass to work. Last time too if my work in the office is something I can manage from home I work from home. Missing that a lot.

I really do enjoy the freedom to be with the kids and take care of my family that this job gives. I just can't help but give in to my emotions and feel all these chaos of sadness that grips my heart and blog about it so I don't carry it around and I can fake a smile.

Jul 14, 2016

Talk it over

After several rushing about to settle in the new work, find the right car, move-out of our sponsor's house to move-in to our apartment, buy the things we needed fix and and get on with our lives. It was easy to fall into the cracks of annoyance, irritation and most of all frustration. I believe that reaction was the only appropriate one. However when the dust (kinda) settled and dear hubby got more sleep and the daily pace was way slower then we had a chance to trash out how we both feel.

It felt good after. Honest to goodness talking. No blaming or shaming just this is how I feel, felt or thought. The more open you are to each other helps A LOT. Life is still not fine & dandy. There are still a lot to criticize about like one that really irritated me is the walk-in clinic didn't accept walk-in as early as 2:30pm and they close at 6pm. Since Ate's fever doesn't want to subside we had to take her again the following day this time after my work at past 4pm and we were the last patient to be seen at 6pm. Turns out the doctor was alone the other day and that he was already taking 100+ patients that day and it was too much. He went on to explain that if its kids and they do need the attention he will consider just tell the receptionist. I guess in this adjustment phase we have to be more tolerant than usual to the different things/process/way of life. This is our life now so we have to make the most out of it. I am grateful to have a partner who through all life's bumps in the road that we come unfettered and we always come back to each others loving and understanding arms. That's saying a lot because if you are so pissed off with each other it's hard to remember that. :)